I will be the first (ok maybe second) to admit that I have trouble making eye contact with people. This is not an uncommon problem it would seem, but nonetheless, it bothers me. Why is this an issue?

I’m not sure. There could be several good reasons. I am not the most confident person. Perhaps my self-esteem is lower than some. Or maybe I’m scared people might see right through me.

I’m hopeless at small talk and have a problem making eye contact.
…Gary Numan

Whatever the reason I know it’s a problem and I am working on getting better. For those who I am really comfortable with I will make frequent eye contact. I try to limit the distractions around me when talking to someone. I smile (seems silly) to help lighten my internal anxiety.

While these things have helped over the years, I still slip into old patterns. I am sure it is something that I will need to continue to work at. But if ‘the eyes are the window to the soul’ then I need to keep at it.